Friday, October 19, 2007

Emma and I are clashing as of late. She is really pushing my buttons, and my patience is struggling. Today, for the first time ever, I think I might have spanked her had she not been sitting in a shopping cart. I am so glad she was, and I didn't, because that is not the type of parent I want to be. Getting to that point, however, has made me realize that I need to sort of regroup.

The problem is that ever since we took her binky away a couple weeks ago, she can't go to sleep. Naps are nonexistent now, and it's darn near impossible to get her to sleep at night as well. Understandable, I suppose, since she has never in her life had to fall asleep without nursing or using her binky. That is, until now. I'm so tempted to let her have her binky just for sleeping again, for my own sanity if nothing else. Perhaps having a preschool age kid who still uses a binky is better than having a ridiculously overtired, unpleasant little girl.

For her sake and for mine, I need to start tomorrow with a different outlook. I am going to forget about cleaning and laundry and the computer and whatever else and just concentrate on her. Maybe if we spend some good quality time together we can start to reconnect. For good measure, I think I'll also reread Playful Parenting.

So this post isn't a total downer, and because I haven't posted a picture of Noah in awhile, here is a picture of the kiddos.
Do you have any idea how difficult it is to get a decent shot of these two? The vast majority of them look like this, mostly because Noah can't seem to go ten seconds without pulling someone's hair.


Pancake Goddess said...

lol, try photographing 4 boys! hee. I totally feel your pain.

My sister has binky daughters (mine never cared for them, or took them and gave them up around 9mos). Her 4yo is bedtime only and the 1yo will probably be in the next year or so. I'm not claiming to be an expert (and you didn't ask for advice), but I think the binky is pretty harmless until adult teeth start coming. Cranky children, otoh, not harmless!

Melinda said...

My kids didn't use binkies, but for my friends that children did, weaning didn't happen until 4 or even 5 for nighttime. Good luck! 3 is a tough age (the toughest in the 5 years I've experienced so far.)

Mom said...

It seems like these two ladies do have good points. So many things about parenting are so tricky. How lucky for me that all four of you turned out to be perfect!

Kara said...

I will agree with Melinda that age 3 was the hardest for Henry and Lincoln both. 4 was SO MUCH better for both of them and then even better at age 5 for Henry. Henry is now 8 and he has his fabulous kid moments and his GRR, UGH moments too LOL
Henry sucked his thumb until he was 5. When he was ready , he was ready. I pushed/encouraged him on and off since he was 2 to stop.
I'd give youself a goal, of another a week or whatever and if nothing changes, then give the binkie back. When Momma is happy, everyone is happy.

Alice said...

As in all things relating to parenting you need to pick your battles - is the use of a binky more important than making sure she is polite to her elders(as a for instance)? I had these parenting conflicts often when my son was growing up and I usually resolved them by answing that question.

Katie said...

gosh you have cute kids!

Mary Beth said...

Hi Sarah. We all have our little comforts, I believe. My older two kids are teens now--the boy loved his paci until he was well into being 4. The girl nursed well into toddlerhood. And now they are well adjusted teens. My theory was to let them have their oral gratification early and they won't turn to unhealthy oral gratification later. Just a thought.

About Lawrence, no I'm not from there, but I was lucky enough to live there when my older kids were little. Love it.